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Finding Time to be Silent
by On February 11, 2013

I find so much goodness in simply being silent.  Here is a quick video i shot on the beach watching the sun rise.

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One of my favorite quotes is “The simple things are also the most extraordinary things, and only the wise can see them.” Paulo Coelho

Finding some time to be silent each day is about as simple as it gets and the results ARE extraordinary.

Here are some fun benefits you can look forward to by simply being silent each day:

A. More Creativity – Many pieces of research are showing how different types of mindfulness and meditation practices are clearly linked to improved creativity and better problem solving skills. I know anecdotally, that this is true for me.

B. Health Benefits – I’m the first to point out that maintaining optimal health does NOT have one magic cure-all. The majority of the western, alternative and homeopathic physicians are certainly in agreement that heightened stress comes with health challenges. Taking some quiet time to relax and ‘do nothing’ has tremendous ability to lower stress. This might take a little time and practice. Occasionally someone tells me “every time that I sit in silence for 5 minutes, all I think about is all the things I’m not getting done right now and I become more stressed than I was before!” Zoiks huh? If you are in that situation – you might REALLY benefit from getting good at getting still once and a while, and it might take some practice. Rome wasn’t built in a day.

C. Better Communication Skills – A consistent practice of being silent will not only make you a better listener … but it will also sharpen your ability to speak clearly. By getting good a remaining silent (and make no mistake this is a skill) you will have more control and focus over where you mind travels. This is a critical part of being able to ‘think on your feet’ and will help you to organize your thoughts into succinct points which are readily understood.

Yoda said, “Do or do not. There is no try.” That is certainly the case with this. Set an intention to find some time this week to do nothing and notice all the goodness that bring to you.

be free!

eric

Create Your Own Dream Book
by On February 6, 2013

 

How did you make your Dream Book? I have been asked that question so many times over the past 13 years ever since I designed “My Life Goals” Book and am surprised I didn’t think to post this sooner, but as they say “better late than never”.

It is flattering that most everyone who sees it wants to have a book just like it. When I tell them how much effort was required to make it, very few are willing to put in the time to make it happen. So, with this understanding I am going to condense my process into 4 steps to help you build and designed your own Dream/Goals Book.

Warning: For those who have done this, happiness and success has followed. If you are prepared for this then please read on…. 🙂

1) Create a Be, Do, Have List – Before you create a book you will need to determine what it is that you want. It is important to decide what you’d like to truly BE, the activities you’d most like to DO and the possessions (emotional and material) you want to HAVE. Take all the time you need as this list should be very expansive and have little regard for what is “realistic”. I mean, this is DREAM Book, right?

 

Here are a couple examples:

BE –  father, basketball coach, millionaire, healthy….

DO – climb mountain, skydive, watch Sumo wrestling match, visit Egypt etc….

HAVE – Mercedes, million dollars checking acct, 3 kids, all my teeth for life…

2) Highlight Your Top Picks – Once you have this massive and unedited list created the next step is to then pick the ones that really “feel right” with you. Hopefully, if you are really diving into this you will have created such a list that it will probably take 2-3 lifetimes to complete. This is great ’cause it allows you to go over the list again and sort through the items that most resonate with you. So, simply read over what you created and start highlighting the ones that stick out the most to you, the things you could see yourself in THIS LIFETIME accomplishing and getting super excited about.

(3) Gather Images for each Dream – Now that you have your starting list it is time to find images through magazines, internet, or personal photos that represent each of the items you highlighted on your BE, DO, HAVE lists. Once you have images for each one you create a book. However you’d like to create the book is up to you, but I bound mine together in a way that it was durable so I could carry it with me wherever I’d like to go.

4) Stamp it a Success – You could certainly leave it at that, but I take it one step farther. If I have the ability I take a picture of me accomplishing the dreams/goals in my book and substitute the old image with my pictures. I then use my red stamp titled SUCCESS on each of the items I have accomplished. It is so awesome to go through the book and track all the DREAMS I am accomplishing and fill my book up with successes.

 

I wish you all the best as you create the life you want and strive towards your dreams. The fun is in the journey so happy travels…

Defining Your Keystone Goal Defined
by On February 5, 2013

Over the last few weeks we have had several folks reach out to ask about their Keystone Goal.  Questions have ranged from “What is it?” to “Why is it important?” to “How in the heck do I DO it?”  I LOVE that people are asking.  It shows that the concept is resonating and that folks are interested in improving their lives.  They get that when they have clear, energizing goals, that will help them achieve what they want in business and in life.

In this post, I will attempt to more clearly define the Keystone Goal and where it lies in the big picture of success.  Before we go any further, I HIGHLY recommend that anyone who is curious about the concept of a Keystone Goal pick up a copy of Roger Seip’s Train Your Brain For Success book as he pretty much coined the term Keystone Goal and spends a good amount of text defining it.  Anything you read in this post comes straight from the book.  I’m not trying to get selly-selly by any means, I just want to make sure I give credit where credit is due.

Consider this post a Cliff’s Notes version of his chapter on the Keystone Goal.  If Cliff’s notes were novel-length… (get comfy before you read this one).

Let’s start with the obvious question, “What is a Keystone Goal?”  Stated simply, this is the one goal that, simply by nature of accomplishing it, will support the rest of your goals getting accomplished as well.  The “Keystone” term  actually comes from architecture.  When building an archway, the keystone is the last piece that goes in and supports loads from multiple angles.  Without the keystone, the structure would crumble, but with it, it is virtually indestructible.  For those of you looking for a visual, the observatory deck of the St. Louis Arch is the keystone of that structure.

Or perhaps this image helps as well:

Can you see how if this piece wasn’t in place, the rest of the structure wouldn’t work?  The same theory applies to your Keystone goal.  Without that one accomplishment, the rest of your goals wouldn’t get done.  Well, they might get done at an individual level, but if you are reading this post, just knocking out one tiny goal at a time probably isn’t of major interest to you.

The important thing to remember is that the Keystone isn’t a lone-wolf goal.  It is one of several goals you should have.  It just happens to be the one that ties everything together.  It is NOT some flash-in-the-pan want or an afterthought related to something that would be kinda cool to have or do.  Like all goals, it should provide focus, direction and a sense of urgency.  More on those aspects in Roger’s book.

So let’s talk about why your Keystone Goal is important.  First off, if you haven’t connected with your “Why” or if you are unfamiliar with what that means, STOP and watch this video.  When it comes to setting goals and operating (read: LIVING) in general, it is MUCH more effective to be coming from a place of Why rather than a place of How or What.  This is a topic that has been written on over and over again, but if you don’t have a clear understanding of WHY you are doing something, it really doesn’t matter HOW or WHAT you do.  Your Why provides purpose.  Once you have that clear, the How and What don’t really matter.  If you wanted more than anything to win a bicycle race, would you care if you won by a tire width or 3 bike lengths?  Would you care if you won it in a solo sprint or sliding across the line in a fantastic group crash?  NO!  You won!

The main reason why your keystone goal is important is because when defined and articulated clearly, it serves as the foundation for EVERYTHING you do to move you towards it.  Any time you find yourself questioning yourself, you can ask yourself, “Does this support me accomplishing my Keystone Goal?”  If the answer is no, it’s a great way to “right the ship” and get yourself moving in the right direction.  Your Keystone Goal is the thing that’s going to motivate you to read instead of watch TV or drink a glass of water instead of a Coke.

OK, let’s cut to the chase, How do I establish a Keystone Goal?  Again, I’m pulling this straight from Train Your Brain For Success but there are 5 steps to follow in order to best leverage the power of your Keystone Goal:

1.  Write down your top 6-7 mid-range goals.  A good rule of thumb is to look at what you want/need to accomplish in the next 90 days.  Anything shorter-term than that may not allow enough “oomph”, and anything longer than that can too easily get overwhelming as it is outside what your brain can realistically visualize.

2.  Identify the Keystone.  As you are looking at the goals you wrote down, there should be one of them that kind of trumps the rest.  Your Keystone is that goal.  It’s the one that, by focusing intensely on its accomplishment, you support the majority of your other goals.  In some instances, the Keystone Goal will create the others as a byproduct.  In other cases, your Keystone Goal will require the accomplishment of other goals as a stepping stone to its accomplishment.*  Take a look at your list and find where that is true in one of your goals.  For me, it is tied to a sales number.  Reason being, in order to hit that sales number, I have to accomplish a bunch of stepping stone goals along the way (like # of new coaching clients, # of booked speeches and income needs).

* I pretty much copied this verbatim from the book.

3.  Solidify your WHY.  We already discussed this above, but get hyper-clear on why accomplishing this one particular goal is important to you.  How will you feel when you do it?  How will pursuing it make you better?  What else will I be able to be/do/have once I accomplish this?  Your Keystone Goal will provide incredibly clear answers to these types of questions.

4.  Make it Visual.  You’ve figured out what your Keystone goal is.  GREAT!  Find a visual representation of it and put that somewhere you can see it ALL THE TIME.  Print off your sales number in big numbers, write it on your bathroom mirror, on the bottom of the inside of your windshield; anywhere you KNOW you will see it several times a day.  This forces you to think about your Keystone Goal and helps you visualize your life once you accomplish it.  If your Keystone is a new house, print off the MLS and put it on the fridge.  Some folks call this dream boarding.  Pinterest can be a huge help on this.  If you need help on using that site, call my wife.  She’s an expert (and yes, I’m talking about in the 10,000 hours of experience sense).

5.  Create a supporting ritual.  This is as simple as letting the first words out of your mouth be your Keystone Goal or as complex as 2 hours of affirmations and Power Half Hour exercises.  Get yourself doing SOMETHING that is a
habit of excellence.  It should definitely be something that keeps you motivated about accomplishing your Keystone Goal.

1-3 above are more how to do it, 4 and 5 are more what to do with it.  If you focus on those 5 steps, you should get yourself moving in the right direction VERY quickly.  And remember, your Keystone should be temporary.  What I mean is that once you get good at setting goals and accomplishing them, you’re going to need a better goal to go after.

I trust this has been helpful.  I welcome any comments or questions, I’ll be mindful to answer them ASAP.

BTW, here’s the Visualization for my Keystone.  Enjoy!