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The Power of Positive Attitude
by On November 28, 2012

By Remez Sasson

Positive attitude helps you cope more easily with the daily affairs of life. It brings optimism into your life, and makes it easier to avoid worry and negative thinking. If you adopt it as a way of life, it will bring constructive changes into your life, and makes them happier, brighter and more successful.

With a positive attitude you see the bright side of life, become optimistic, and expect the best to happen. It is certainly a state of mind that is well worth developing.

Positive attitude manifests in the following ways:

Positive thinking.

Constructive thinking.

Creative thinking.

Expectation of success.

Optimism.

Motivation to accomplish your goals.

Being inspired.

Choosing happiness.

Not giving up.

Looking at failure and problems as blessings in disguise.

Believing in yourself and in your abilities.

Displaying self-esteem and confidence.

Looking for solutions.

Seeing opportunities.

A positive attitude leads to happiness and success and can change your whole life. If you look at the bright side of life, your whole life becomes filled with light. This light affects not only you, and the way you look at the world, but it also affects your whole environment and the people around you. If it is strong enough, it becomes contagious.

The benefits of a positive attitude:

Helps achieving goals and attaining success.

Success achieved faster and more easily.

More happiness.

More energy.

Greater inner power and strength.

The ability to inspire and motivate yourself and others.

Fewer difficulties encountered along the way.

The ability to surmount any difficulty.

Life smiles at you.

People respect you.

Negative attitude says: you cannot achieve success.

Positive attitude says: You can achieve success.

If you have been exhibiting a negative attitude and expecting failure and difficulties, it is now the time to change the way you think. It is time to get rid of negative thoughts and behavior and lead a happy and successful life. Why not start today? If you have tried and failed, it only means that you have not tried enough.

Developing a positive attitude that will lead you to happiness and success:

– Choose to be happy.

– Look at the bright side of life.

– Choose to be and stay optimistic.

– Find reasons to smile more often.

– Have faith in yourself and in the Power of the Universe.

– Contemplate upon the futility of negative thinking and worries.

– Associate yourself with happy people.

– Read inspiring stories.

– Read inspiring quotes.

– Repeat affirmations that inspire and motivate you.

– Visualize only what you want to happen.

– Learn to master your thoughts.

– Learn concentration and meditation.

Following even only one of the above suggestions, will bring more light into your life!

Organize Your Mind to Organize Your Life
by On November 14, 2012

By Margaret Moore, Special to CNN

updated 12:55 PM EST, Sun January 22, 2012

Editor’s note: Margaret Moore (aka Coach Meg) is the co-author of “Organize Your Mind, Organize Your Life.” She is the director of the Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital and the founder and CEO of Wellcoaches Corporation.

(CNN) — If there’s one big lesson I’ve learned over the past decade while training thousands of health and wellness coaches and coaching many clients, it’s this: An organized mind enables full engagement in a health-giving style of life.

So I jumped at the opportunity to co-author “Organize Your Mind, Organize Your Life” with Harvard psychiatrist Paul Hammerness, where we translate the science of brain organization into six principles, or “rules of order,” and offer self-coaching solutions.

The kind of organization I’m talking about is not decluttering your office or home, or purchasing the latest app to organize to-dos and projects.

I’m talking about the mind’s ability to attain a higher order of order — a calm, wise, positive, strategic perspective — and the skills it takes to get there in small or large domains of life, including health and well-being.

Neuroscientists are opening a window into the disorganized minds of those with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD,) providing insights into how to train our brains to become more organized.

We know that disorganization is not just a problem of ADHD sufferers. It’s an epidemic. I don’t know anyone whose mind isn’t frenzied, distracted or divided by multitasking a good deal of the time.

The connection between disorganized minds and unhealthy habits is compelling. The National Institute of Aging concluded from a recent study that symptoms of a disorganized mind, namely impulsivity, chronic negativity, high stress and multitasking, all correlate with higher weight. For example, adults in the top 10% rating for impulsivity (most impulsive) weighed an average of 24 pounds more than those in the bottom 10% rating for impulsivity.

Dr. Paul Hammerness and Margaret Moore co-authored “Organize Your Mind, Organize Your Life.”

Whether or not you have an organized mind depends upon your ability to “drive” your attention and keep it focused when you’re under pressure or faced with challenging conditions.

Just like driving a race car, a lot of skills are required. Fortunately, these skills are built into the brain’s normal wiring. So how do you start to tap into your innate ability to be organized?

Rule No. 1: Tame your frenzy

Before you can focus your attention, you need to take charge of your negative emotional frenzy (worry, anger, sadness, irritation). This frenzy impairs and overwhelms your prefrontal cortex, the brain’s CEO or executive function region, so that you can’t “think straight.”

Too much negative stress damages your ability to focus and harms your health. The great news is that the same things that improve your health can improve your mind’s ability to manage negative frenzy. Sleep well, exercise, do a mindfulness practice or choose the slow lane from time to time, even for a few minutes.

Find your unique formula to tame your frenzy so that you drive your attention to its best possible focus.

Rule No. 2: Sustain your focus

Now that your mind is calm, identify one task and one task only. The brain was not designed to focus on more than one thing at a time. Tell your brain what the intention or goal is for your focused session. Turn off your phone and e-mail, shut the door and set the timer for 20 to 30 minutes as a first step.

Rule No. 3: Apply the brakes

Your focused brain also needs to be able to stop, just as surely as a good pair of brakes brings your car to a halt at a red light.

Your brain’s radar regions are always scanning your internal and external environment, even when you are focused. Distractions are inevitable if you are human. Rather than mindlessly succumb to a distraction while in the midst of an important task (including health-giving activities such as exercising, cooking a healthy meal or relaxing), stop, breathe and consider whether the distraction is urgent enough to trump the current priority.

If not, bring your attention back to the important task until it is time to take a brain break to recharge your brain’s batteries, or move to a new task.

Rule No. 4: Access your working memory

Your brain is designed to store a basket of bits of information in short term memory (aka “working memory”). Accessing your short-term memory, turning over various elements in your mind, helps you problem-solve, generate new ideas and insights, and see the new patterns that lead you to a strategic perspective.

More great news: The same strategies that allow you to tame frenzy enable you to better access your working memory — exercise, deep breathing or meditation, and a good night’s sleep.

Rule No. 5: Shift sets

Now it’s time to move your focus to a new task. Move all of your attention fully to the next task and give it your undivided attention. This brain skill, called “set-shifting,” allows you to leave behind one task and leap to a new one with a fresh and productive focus.

Set-shifting is also described as cognitive agility or flexibility. Often our most creative ideas come, seemingly out of the blue, when we’re taking a brain break or focusing completely on something else.

How interesting it is that having a fit and flexible mind is just as valuable to a life you love as a fit and flexible body.

Rule No. 6: Connect the dots

You’ve learned how to tame your frenzy and focus your attention on one thing at a time. You can handle distractions. Your working memory is ready for action when you need it. You are nimble, able to shift deftly from one task to the next. You take breaks, move your body and shift your focus to invite new ideas, insights and connections.

Together, these “rules of order” will help you change not only your habits of attention, but the way you look at your life. Instead of being stressed, you’ll be calmly in control.

You’ll be more productive and therefore have more time to do things that are healthy for your body and mind. You’ll feel good about yourself, and positive emotions are health promoting. And you’ll be able to use your organized mind to set health and fitness goals and focus well on achieving them.

How to Lead By Example
by On November 7, 2012

How to Lead By Example:  Dr. Schuler’s Ten Rules for Working and Living

by A. J. Schuler, Psy. D.

People talk about “leading by example,” but what does that mean? By incorporating the following attitudes and practices into your life, you will not only improve your own life, but also begin to fashion yourself into the kind of person that others will follow and emulate –  the very definition of  leading by example.  So, here are my “Ten Rules for Working and Living:”

The Lives We Live are the Lives We Create

Yes, life is a creative art.  Expectations are often self-fulfilling.  If we expect life to be good, if we believe it is filled with opportunities and cause for celebration, then we will notice those things and live so as to promote them, even without conscious intent.  If we believe life is a marathon of unremitting toil and scarcity, then toil and scarcity will be all that we find and experience, and we will inadvertently create the circumstances that promote them.  You cannot expect to win the lottery and then win the lottery: that is magical  thinking, the special realm of childhood (or of adult madness).  But you can (and do) nurture a basic attitude toward living, and if you don’t take control of it, it most assuredly will take control of you.

Health and Productivity go Hand in Hand

We talk a lot about the importance of balance, and surely everyone’s definition of balance is, well, different.  In order to be productive and healthy, we  all have to take care of our minds, bodies and spirits, but the reverse is also true: being productive is inherently healthy, and doing good,  meaningful work that fits our talents can keep us alive and healthy a long time.  How often do we see someone retire and then fall into poor health?  Doing what you love to do, and doing it well, and especially helping  other people learn and succeed, brings benefit back to you.  In the end, it does not matter what it is you do, so long as it is not destructive to others and you feel you are  making a contribution.  No matter how menial or arcane the job, all work has inherent dignity and can become a  medium through which a person can grow and make a contribution to others.

As We Treat Others, So Shall We Be Treated

This is about the law of averages.  Yes, there is injustice in the world, and  yes, there is cruelty.  Bad things happen  to good people, and vice versa.  But  in general, we may sow what we reap.  I once read a quote:  “Make your words sweet:“ you may have to eat them later!  People notice how we treat them, especially when we are in positions of leadership, and most especially when we think no one is looking.  What goes around comes around.

Don’t Wait for Solutions: Create Them

Some people are experts in seeing what is wrong with a situation, system, organization or person.  But what good is such expertise?  What does it solve or create?  I am forever baffled by people who see themselves as passive – unable to create a solution or work toward one.  What does anyone get out of being a perpetual critic?  A temporary feeling of power or superiority?  What could be a more impoverished way to  live than that?  Two schools of thought  here: the active and the passive. The passive and negative position waits for someone else to make a bad situation better, perhaps faulting others for their inaction (we see this in offices all the time).  The positive and active position works to build a productive awareness among those who can influence a negative situation so that all can take collective  action to make it better.  Guess which  type of person others naturally follow – and then imitate?

Negativity Kills

Literally.  What is violence but an extreme expression of negativity?  But killer negativity does not require a physical manifestation to wreck its  havoc.  We know that negative thinking weakens the immune system and contributes to disease and to an increase in mortality. We also know that negativity is contagious:  for example, when there is a high profile suicide in some community, health experts know to expect a new spate of imitative suicides or suicide attempts, even among those with no social connection to that first poor, despairing person.  Suicide, and even severe negativity or depression, can spread like an epidemic, or like a cancer.  Even in small doses, negativity contributes to illness and ultimately to death.  This represents a universal truth of  living, or “anti-living.” Why are people drawn to leaders?  Because leaders, through their attitudes  and abilities to resist or overcome negativity, function like antibodies in the world, fighting negativity and adding “life” to those around them.  If negativity is a cancer, then good  leaders, just in the way they carry themselves and approach the world, fight that cancer, all the time.

Communication Starts With Listening

Don’t worry about trying to express yourself better (you don’t have to be talkative to be a leader).  Think instead about asking better questions, and then repeat back your best understanding of what you’ve just heard.  Resist the temptation to think about what you want to say in response when carrying on a conversation.  You’ll be amazed at how much you learn, and how much better you understand people you thought you understood before.  People rightly see leaders as those who understand them, or who make the effort to try to understand them.  Only once you’ve listened will you have earned the right to speak your own point of view, based on a more complete understanding of other people and the circumstances around them.  That’s what makes a person an effective  leader.  By setting a tone of listening, others will follow suit.

Between Two Positions Always Lies a Third Option

Leaders know that dilemmas that come pre-packaged as “either-or” propositions are usually preset for failure.  There is always at least one other way to view a situation, either by expanding the issue, finding a third alternative  or creating a negotiated compromise.  There are certainly times not to compromise, but even that decision  should only come after a creative examination of many possible approaches has been completed.  But what makes leaders effective is their ability to generate those options, either through imagination or consultation, before making any final decisions.  While most people get trapped into defining conflicts as either/or, win/lose propositions, they end up  following those who prove they can craft better solutions, creating value and advantage for all involved.

Laughter Cures

You gotta laugh.  You just gotta!  Life presents too much that is just fun and funny, even absurd.  That’s the beauty of it.  If you keep that attitude about you, and nurture it, then you add the power, not only of avoiding negativity, but of adding joy and positivity to your life, and to the lives of others.  Laughter is even more infectious than negativity, and at least as powerful a force for health.  If the laughter comes at no one’s expense, but comes rather from a shared sense of the beauty and absurdity that we see all around us (especially in ourselves!), then people can be drawn to you, and your playfulness will catch on.

Do Great Work, Have Fun and Lend a Hand Along the Way

Good work is, well, good.  Great work is inherently rewarding.  Do it with fun and style, and you are not a prisoner of your labor, but rather a master of your craft.  If you help others along the way, either by teaching them or just by  setting them up for their own success, then both life and work acquire  greater meaning.  None of us live forever, and we should all leave a little something behind for the good.  This “rule” is one of my favorites; it’s one worth repeating and spreading around.

In the End, We Are All More or Less Human

. . . And that’s a good thing.  We are imperfect.  We have bad moods and bad moments.  We m
ake mistakes; we have parts of our character that may be less than forever admirable.  That just makes us human.  Keeping this in mind helps us refrain from taking ourselves too seriously when we succeed or when we fail, and it also gives us some humility and perspective through which to understand  the inescapable frailties of others – especially when they fail to see the  wisdom of our obviously superior points of view (wink wink, nudge  nudge)!  In the end, the pursuit of near-perfection is more important than its achievement, even if it is good to be competitive and dedicated to excellence in order to bring out the best in ourselves and others.

Copyright (c) 2003 A. J. Schuler, Psy. D.

Dr. A. J. Schuler is an expert in leadership and organizational change. To find out more about his programs and services, visit www.SchulerSolutions.com or call (703) 370-6545.

 

Elevate Your State and Achieve Results
by On November 6, 2012

by Ron Ross, CCIM

In our business as commercial real estate brokers, success is dependent on the ability to achieve results on behalf of our clients. In fact, in the world of commission based sales, we only get paid when the desired result is achieved. So, how do you manage to stay at the top of your game — whether the business of real estate or something else? I’m going to share with you some ideas that I’ve been fortunate enough to have learned from Eric Plantenberg of Freedom Personal Development. Through implementation of these personal development principles and practices, I have been able to consistently provide the highest level of service to my clients. As a member of a company implementing these principals, we strive daily to “elevate our state.”

The Anatomy of Results is comprised of the interaction of the following components:

1. Intention

2. State

3. Action

Another way of illustrating this is Intention x State x Action = Results.

In order to create a result one must have an intention, a goal, a direction. Most of us are well aware of the importance of setting goals. In addition to goals we have daily intentions. For example, my intention is to go to the store, or my intention is to sell a building. This intention must be combined with state and action to achieve the desired result. We know what an action is, but what exactly is “state?”

State is “state of mind” or well-being. It is your spiritual, emotional and mental condition at any given time. Emotional, mental and spiritual state has huge impacts on the body’s physical condition and ability to perform.

How important is your state when trying to achieve results, really? Many believe that intention and action should be the focus. We all know that actions really are what make things happen. Right? Not so fast. If you ever have the opportunity to be around the highest performing people, whether that be in sports, real estate, business, music, art, medical, or any other endeavor — you will receive a far different answer. Peak performers will almost always tell you that by far the most important component of that equation is state. State is so important in fact that most high achievers are sure that state is responsible for around 65% – 70% of their performance results, leaving intention and action each with between 10 – 20%.

If that is true then why do most of us focus the majority of our time, efforts and energy on actions and in many cases almost completely ignore working on state? Maybe we are missing the boat. I contend that if we focused the majority of our resources and energy on elevating our state, we would be quite pleasantly surprised at the results.

So how do we elevate our state? Lets discuss a few things you can do.

Manage your brain input.

There are literally millions of sources of information, bytes, data, emotions, people, etc., that bombard our brain daily. Pay attention to what goes in. Are TV and newspapers good input to elevate your state? Headline examples from this morning’s local paper — “Victim in park identified,” “Arrest made in killing,” “Medical pot grower gets 1o years,” “Argument ends in stabbing,” “Republicans Accuse Democrats.” It goes on. Do you think this is good input for your state? Rethink your morning. Is reading the newspaper a good way to start your day? The same obvious answer also applies to television, and other forms of the mainstream media.

Manage what goes into your brain daily. Start your day with something positive and inspirational. Watch the sunrise, do yoga, read something inspirational (rethink your newspaper), listen to music (classical music is particularly effective for elevating your state). The way you start your day is enormously important and will impact the entire day either positively or negatively.

Surround yourself with people that are good for your state.

You really need to eliminate or at least mitigate the impact that negative and destructive people have on you. Sometimes that can be difficult, but if you elevate your state that could be the best thing that could happen for people around you. Spend time with top performers and others that lift your state. You know who they are! In a sales environment, try to sit near or socialize with fellow top producers.

Manage your physical input.

This one is self evident. It simply means to take care of your physical body. Be very aware and cognizant as to what goes in. This means, of course, food, water, and other substances. We all know what should go in there and what shouldn’t. Focus on it. It is important to elevating your state.

When I am facing a particularly challenging commercial real estate assignment, I define my intentions and necessary actions, and then spend the vast majority of my energy and time on elevating my state. It works. You will be amazed at the results you can achieve by focusing less on actions and more on state.

This is only a start. There are so many things we can do to elevate our state. I hope to share some of these ideas with you on future blogs. In the meantime if this has piqued your interest, please click here for a TEDx talk on the subject by Eric Plantenberg, CEO and founder of Freedom Personal Development.

Ron Ross, CCIM is a principal broker with Compass Commercial Real Estate Services in Bend, OR

Happy Monday Friend!
by On November 5, 2012

One of the fastest ways to kill your momentum is to avoid a problem that you have with someone close to you.

Road blocks and pitfalls are a natural part of relationships.  They happen at work.   In marriages.  With friends.  Any meaningful relationship is bound to have conflict from time to time.

When and how you address your challenges can be the difference between a deeper, more authentic connection that propels your forward and being totally stuck.

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This topic to such a big deal to me that i’m putting together a 6 month contest with the winner receiving a free ticket to the Abundant Living Retreat.

How the contest works is simple. Post your story about where a difficult conversation in your life turned out to be a beneficial experience for you and the other person (or people) involved. This can be something recent or from your past. Posting your story allows you to reconnect to the positive outcome & can help you to make that a positive pattern in your life. It also can provide inspiration to others who may be hesitant to make the conversation happen. And winning a $5,000 retreat would be cool too!

Only posts on the blogsite (no Facebook or emails) from November 2012 to April 2013 will be entered. The Freedom Personal Development staff will pick the top 6 finalists and you will vote for the top winner in May 2013.

If you’ve found this topic beneficial, please take the time to share it with others … and post your thoughts and questions as well as your stores.  I’m looking forward to reading them all.

be free!

eric

 

 

6 Ways to be Positive in Any Situation
by On November 1, 2012

The power of remaining positive, whatever the situation, can never be underestimated. We are all here for a limited period of time, is it worth it to spend any of that time in can be so hard on ourselves though social conditioning. I am guilty of being extra tough on myself, but have learned over time to recognize my gifts rather than finding false and self-imposed inadequacies.

Inventory of Memories – Keep an inventory of memories that can immediately make you smile. Occasions where you felt happy, appreciative and cheerful. When you were at peace with the world. Whenever you are in a negative frame of mind, consciously and deliberately pick up any leaf out of this inventory and dwell on it. Reminiscing those happy moments gives a balanced perspective to your situation. You realize that what appears negative today will change tomorrow. Nothing stays the same.

Criticizing Detox Diet – Change your approach and attitude. See if you can stop criticizing others and situations. Our cultural conditioning teaches us to find flaws and problems at all times. Shift from fault-finding to appreciation-finding.

Whether you are positive or negative, the situation does not change. So, we mind as well be positive.

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