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Using Positive Words to Impact Your Results
by On August 31, 2009

Ken BudkaI would like to explore how your results can be improved by correctly using positive and negative words in your written communication.

People tend to remember the first and last words you say. Therefore, the two most impactful sentences of your writing should have positive connotations, and those sentences are the ones you use to open and close.

This may be harder than you think if you are not conscious of what you are writing. ABC News recently reported that negative words dominate our language. In fact, “Half of all the words that people produce from their working vocabulary to express emotion are negative. And 30 percent are positive and 20 percent are neutral.”

When someone starts to read a document that begins with a negative sentence, such as “I am unhappy with the service your company provided,” the reader becomes defensive. Even if the service was poor, you are likely to get a better response when you influence the reader with positive words in the beginning.

Using the same example, you could change it to say, “I understand your company is extremely busy because of the wonderful products your provide. Unfortunately, the service I received was horribly slow and rude which was a huge inconvenience for me.” Another posisitve opening is, “Thank you for taking a moment to read this document and for your support in resolving the following issue.”

Secondly, when a reader finishes a document, and it closes on a negative note, it sets the emotional stage for the reader. You leave them feeling emotionally upset or angry and they are less likely to be willing to fulfill your request.

For instance, writing, “I demand that this problem be corrected or I will contact your manager,” is full of threats and negative connotations. You will be more effective if you change it to, “I believe that this instance was an oversight and rare occurrence and would appreciate a prompt response.”

An effective technique is what I like to call “The Sandwich Method.” Here is how is works: Open with a positive statement or paragraph, then go into your negative points middle of the document. Use specific examples of what happened and exactly what you would like to see happen. At the end close it up again with a quick sentence or sentiment such as, “I appreciate you time in looking into this matter. Please contact me at such, as such, phone number or by email,” and give them the action that you would request.

Here is a quick tip: Opening and closing with the words “thank you” is a super powerful approach in writing.

Be positive in all of your communications, especially in writing, because it will be around for years to come as a living proof of that particular moment when you pushed the send button or dropped it in the mail. Even better though, you are more likely to get you desired results!

Be Free!

Ken Budka
Training Coordinator

Source:
http://abcnews.go.com/Technology/DyeHard/story?id=460987&page=1

Video – The Someday Syndrome
by On August 28, 2009

In this video, The Someday Syndrome is presented by former US Congressman and speaking legend Ed Foreman.

The someday syndrome strikes when you constantly are looking to the future to be happy. For instance, “Someday, when I get a raise and that new car, then life is going to be really good.” Or, “Someday, when I get married, I will be happy.”

As a consequence of being afflicted by this syndrome, you forget to enjoy life. You plan to someday, laugh, live and enjoy. There is no guarantee that you will be around tomorrow and there is no way to bring back yesterday.

The only day we can laugh, live and enjoy life is today. Use it wisely!

Be Free!

5 Steps to Treat Your Work as a Business and Not a Job
by On August 27, 2009

Leah SimpsonHow can you make the most out of your professional life? Statistically speaking, from Monday to Friday, the average working American spends between 60% and 75% of their waking hours focusing on their work. That’s a lot of time! In my coaching experience, I have found one over-riding way that people successfully maximize their work life. They treat their work as a business and not as a job.

Regardless of how they are paid, regardless of whether they receive a 1099 or a W-2, and regardless of what their boss thinks, people who treat their work as a business grow more personally, receive more recognition, impact more people, make more money, and enjoy more of their working hours than those who treat their work as a job.

It’s all about how you see yourself. If you treat your profession as a job, you are likely operating under the pretense that someone else gives you work. You say, “It’s not my responsibility” and are frustrated that others think it is. You watch the clock closely.

If you treat your profession as a business, you realize that you choose your work. In fact, you create your work. You realize that everything will get done better if you accept responsibility and own it. When you have the mindset of a business owner you are emotionally and financially rewarded!

The truth is, EVERYONE chooses their work. If you don’t feel that way right now, let me ask you a question. Could you physically stop what you do for work right this very second? YES! Maybe you wouldn’t be able to feed your family, maybe a patient would die, maybe you would leave a big client hanging, maybe you would lose health insurance, maybe you would miss out on your bonus, but you absolutely, physically, could stop what you’re doing.

From this moment on, you are choosing your work. Own it. Treat your work like a business. Own your business. Make the most of your working hours, which I’ll remind you, are more than 60% of most of your days.

How? Business owners focus on results. Not the hours they work, not what will hurt someone’s feelings, but on the results that they need to see happen. In addition, they own their work. They own not only their paycheck and their paid hours, but they own the information that pertains to their business. Here are a few specific ways that you can start becoming more of a business owner:

 1. USE A SCHEDULE:

 Have a schedule created by results instead of by the hours you need or want to work. Ask yourself these questions: What needs to get done? How long will these things take? When would be the best time this week to get this done? Then create a schedule based on your answers and stick to your schedule.

2. KNOW YOUR BUSINESS:

Know the numbers and issues that are most relevant to your responsibilities AND know your company goals and critical figures. Know your clients and work to develop better relationships with them. When you learn an answer to a question, internalize it and own it so you don’t have to ask the same questions over and over.

3. DEVELOP SOLUTIONS:

Before you ask anyone else for help with challenges you face, have at lease one possible solution in mind. This will not only help you to own your challenges and be a part of the results, it also will earn you much more respect very quickly!

4. ACT LIKE YOUR IMAGE OF A BUSINESS OWNER:

Spend time thinking about and writing down what a business owner looks like, does, and thinks, and then do it!

5. USE SELF-TALK AND VISUALIZATION:

Catch yourself saying “employee-like” statements and stop (such as, “that’s not my job”). Add business owner phrases into your self-dialogue (for example, “I can figure this out”). Take time to visualize yourself as a functioning business owner and reality will soon follow your visualizations.

What you’ll find as you start acting like you own your business and focusing on results is that you will be rewarded emotionally and financially for your new mentality.

Be Free!

Leah Simpson
Instructor

The Miracle of Self-Discipline
by On August 26, 2009

Brian TracyThere is one special quality that you can develop that will guarantee you greater success, accomplishment and happiness in life. Of a thousand principles for success developed over the ages, this one quality or practice will do more to assure that you accomplish wonderful things with your life than anything else. This quality is so important that, if you don’t develop it to a high degree, it is impossible for you to ever achieve what you are truly capable of achieving.

The quality that I am talking about is the quality of self-discipline. It is a habit, a practice, a philosophy and a way of living. All successful men and women are highly disciplined in the important work that they do. All unsuccessful men and women are undisciplined and unable to control their behaviors and their appetites. And when you develop the same levels of high, personal discipline possessed by the most successful people in our society, you will very soon begin to achieve the same results that they do.

All great success in life is preceded by long, sustained periods of focused effort on a single goal, the most important goal, with the determination to stay with it until it is complete. Throughout history, we find that every man or woman who achieved anything lasting and worthwhile, had engaged in long, often unappreciated hours, weeks, months and even years of concentrated, disciplined work, in a particular direction.

Fortunately the quality of self-discipline is something that you can learn by continuous practice, over and over, until you master it. Once you have mastered the ability to delay gratification, the ability to discipline yourself to keep your attention focused on the most important task in front of you, there is virtually no goal that you cannot accomplish and no task that you cannot complete.

Successful people engage in activities that are goal-achieving. Unsuccessful people engage in activities that are tension-reliving. Successful people discipline themselves to have dinner before dessert. Unsuccessful people prefer to have dessert most of the time.

Successful people plan their work, and work their plan. They take the time to think through their responsibilities before they begin. They make clear decisions which they then implement immediately. They get a lot more done in a shorter period of time than the average person. And it all has to do with their disciplines.

Perhaps the most important benefit of self-discipline is the personal benefit that you receive. Every act of self-discipline increases your self-esteem. It gives you a feeling of personal power and accomplishment. Each time you discipline yourself to persist in the face of distractions, diversions, and disappointments, you feel better about yourself. As you continue to discipline yourself, you achieve more and more in life. As you achieve more things, you feel more like a winner. Your self-confidence goes up. You feel happier about yourself. You get more done and you have more energy. You earn the respect and esteem of the people around you. You get more rapid promotions and are paid more money. You live in a nicer house, drive a nicer car, and wear nicer clothes. You get a natural high from the thrill of achievement. And the more things that you achieve as the result of employing your personal habits of effectiveness and productivity, the more eager you are to achieve even higher and better tasks. Your life gets onto an upward spiral of success and happiness. You feel great about yourself most of the time.

Every act of self-discipline strengthens every other discipline in your life. Every weakness of self-discipline weakens your other disciplines as well. When you make a habit of disciplining yourself in little things, like flossing your teeth every night, you’ll soon become able to discipline yourself to accomplish even larger things, like working long, long hours to bring a major task to completion.

Your entire life is an on-going battle between the forces of doing what is right and necessary on the one hand and doing what is fun and easy on the other hand. It is a battle between the forces of discipline and the forces of ease or expediency. And when you develop the strength of character that gives you complete self-mastery, self-control and self-discipline, you feel wonderful about yourself. You develop a deep inner sense of strength and confidence. You replace positive thinking with positive knowing. You reach the point inside where you absolutely know that you can do whatever it takes to achieve any goal that you can set for yourself.

Self-discipline is its own reward. Not only does it pay off in terms of greater self-esteem and a more positive mental attitude, but it pays off throughout your life in terms of the goals that you achieve and the success that you attain in everything you do.

Self-discipline is a skill and a habit that can be learned by practice. Every time you practice a little self-discipline, you become stronger and stronger. Bit by bit, you become more capable of even greater disciplines. As you become a totally self-disciplined individual, your entire future opens up in front of you like a broad highway. Everything becomes possible for you and your future becomes unlimited.

Be Free!

The Top 10 Ways to Improve Your Attitude
by On August 25, 2009

AttitudePersonal energy is an important component of personal and business productivity. Most people cycle between positive and negative energy states during the workweek. But the percentage of time spent in positive and negative moods varies significantly.

Some people seem to be overwhelmingly negative, while others in similar circumstances can remain much more positive. Increasing the time spent in positive states will improve personal productivity.

The following 10 tips suggest ways to facilitate a more positive attitude.

1. Work first on your relationships.

Relationships are both our best sources of happiness and our biggest sources of problems and frustrations. Developing good relationships and improving or ending the poor relationships in your life will increase your personal energy. An effective tactic to start improving your relationships is to develop better personal boundaries and standards and work on reducing tolerations.

2. Develop a routine to start every day in a positive mental state.

It is very helpful to start the day with a routine that creates positive energy. Many people find activities like an early morning walk, exercise, meditation, quiet time, etc., effective in getting their day off to a positive start. It is easier to stay positive, if you can start with a positive attitude.

3. Learn how to monitor your current mental state and changes to it.

This is a complex area, but if you can link negative mood changes to a source or cause, then you are frequently in a position to quickly change back. The important point here is once you are in a negative state, get the message or value from the situation, then take some action to return to a positive state. This is discussed more in #6 below.

4. Create an energizing physical environment.

Invest some time and money to make your personal surroundings pleasing and energizing to you.

Some small items may make a big difference to how your personal space affects your moods. Poor lighting can lower your mental state, especially in the winter. I put 800 watts of halogen lighting in my workspace and noticed a big mood improvement. Some people report a big improvement in their mood just by cleaning up their bedroom and making the bed before leaving for work. Clutter is de-energizing to many people. A sink full of dirty dishes is de-energizing to some. A small water fountain can create a feeling of energy. Music can offset feelings of isolation. Feng Shui is an entire discipline that addresses the harmony of physical surroundings. Further reading in this topic may give you some good ideas.

5. Carefully monitor your self-talk.

Negative self talk is a common source of low moods. When you are hearing negative self talk, be alert to the unrealistic, overly negative messages. Focus on getting any truthful message, then shifting out of overly self-defeating criticism. It is true that we are usually our own worst critic.

6. Develop methods of shifting yourself to a more positive state.

Once you are aware of your negative moods, and have developed your own method of getting the value out of the bad mood, then craft methods of moving back to a positive mood. These methods can include positive self talk, taking action towards a desirable goal, interacting with another person. One creative method is to maintain a Truth Journal in which you write down your personal Truth about various topics. This Truth can include past successes, what you are really good at, things you enjoy, compliments you have received, progress towards goals, etc. Then, when you are feeling negative about a topic, read the Truth Journal.

7. Deal with problems effectively.

Problems are a part of life. Few people enjoy problems. But, in many cases we can learn from problems. It may help to ask yourself several questions, such as:

* What am I contributing to this problem?
* What Life Lesson have I been missing here?
* What is the worst that can happen and how can I improve on that?
* What am I doing right?
* What am I going to do differently?

Getting into a habit of using problems as learning experiences can help us avoid becoming de-energized when they occur.

8. Focus your energy on attracting more of what you want.

Time and energy spent dwelling on problems is frequently better spent pursuing desirable goals. It helps to examine your own contribution to any difficulties and understand how you may need to change. Then be sure to ask others directly for what you want from them; don’t fall into the trap of under communicating. In this way, you are always making course corrections and moving forward. I have found it helpful to print out a list of goals, and my theme for the week first thing Monday morning. This seems to help me get started on a positive note.

9. Be a positive energy source with others.

Negative energy seems to attract negative results. Keeping your own mood positive can encourage positive moods and suppress negative behavior in others.

10. Avoid using negative energy as an energy source.

Many people have a shortage of positive energy in their lives and use negative energy as their energy source. They create busyness, use deadlines, crises, and problems to keep them going. In many cases, their motivation patterns shift entirely from seeking pleasure to avoiding pain. In most cases, serious burnout is the eventual result of becoming dependent on negative energy sources.

About the Author:
This piece was originally submitted by Bruce St.John, Leadership Coach, who can be reached at bstjohn@aol.com, or visited on the web. Bruce St.John wants you to know: I help business leaders become the person their dog thinks they are!

Source: http://topten.org/public/BL/BL58.html

Be Free!

Video
by On August 21, 2009

 
FBI agent, Bill Brown, explains how you can use a person’s body language to spot when they are telling you a lie.

They say your eyes are windows to the soul, but they can also indicate if a person is telling you the truth. For instance, if a person you are talking to looks:

Up and to their right – they are telling a lie (if they are right handed)

Up and to their left – they are remember something and probably telling the truth (if they are right-handed)

Switch these two indicators if the person is left-handed.

Other signs a person is lying include:

** Rubbing their neck
** Tapping fingers
** Leaning back in their chair
** Tightly folded hands
** Sitting to the side
** Folding their arms in front of them
** Looking at their watch
** Placing an object between them and you
** Changing the subject tangentially

While they are talking, pay attention to their tone of voice. If it suddenly changes, it is a good indication they just told a lie.

Many of these signs are automatic and cannot be controlled as they are part of the autonomic nervous system.

Be Free!

How to Add Momentum to Your Goals
by On August 20, 2009

Tom WeberI want to give you a couple of powerful ideas on how to give your new goals some momentum.

Here are the simple steps I take every year to really get some power behind my goals.

1. Set my goals in all areas of my life: professional, financial, mental, physical, family, and social.

2. Look for an overarching theme. This is usually something that links many of the goals together.

3. Pick an appropriate symbol for the theme.

For example, in 2006 I had the Year of the summit, because climbing the mountain was a physical goal as well as metaphorical goal of hitting team goals, sales goals, etc. In 2005, I had the Year of the House, which was the year that I invested in my first home. In 2004, it was the Year of the Pyramid as I built my Financial Pyramid and paid off $20,000 in Credit Card debt, no small feat, much like the building of the pyramids in Egypt.

Set your goals, find a theme, pick a symbol, and then immerse yourself, surround yourself, bury yourself in the symbol, in note cards, in posters, change your screen saver to scroll your year’s name. Change the passwords of your email account, of your voicemail, of all things that you use often and hold dear.

Seem fanatical? Yes, I suppose it does. Although, shouldn’t we be fanatical about our goals? If we didn’t want to really hit them, why did we set them in the first place?

Your goal must be meaningful to you, so I’m not saying you should brainwash yourself with the sales quota your company or manager told you should be your goal. I’m talking about what you hold most dear to your heart, because if you allow what is in your heart to enter your brain, amazing things will begin to happen. It won’t happen overnight.  It takes time to let your subconscious guide you towards your goals, but trust yourself, trust that you CAN do anything. Be a fanatic.

Post your goals in secret code if you want, just make sure that you have them where you can see them. Put up note cards and laminated sheets of paper on the bathroom mirror, on the corner of the tv screen, on your nightstand, on the steering wheel of your car, on your computer, and where ever else your imagination finds suitable.

When you do these things, you will enter a very small percentage of the masses, a group of elite goal hitting machines.

Be Free!

Tom Weber
VP of Sales

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Believe it or Not – Everyone is Creative
by On August 19, 2009

David DenisSome of you reading this have just tuned out. A voice played in your mind saying, “I’m not creative…this doesn’t apply to me.” Let me just say that that is total complete and utter nonsense. Or, in more basic terms, a load of crap.

Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, is creative. This means you. I say this with complete and absolute certainty because, although I know very little about you, I am confident that you are in fact, human. To be human is to be creative. It is what we do.

Have you ever solved a problem? Have you ever set a goal and achieved it? Have you ever gotten lost and then gotten unlost? Have you ever fixed something that was broken? Have you ever written a poem? A letter? A note? Have you ever said something funny that you made up yourself? Have you ever completed a project in your yard or around the house, stepped back when you were done and just admired your work? Have you ever had children? Have you ever rearranged the furniture?

All of these are examples of creativity. Some of them are small and mundane. Some of them are huge and significant. Every day we take things as they are, we think about them and then we make them better. That is creativity, and it is completely within reach of all of us.

Art is not the only path for creativity. The arts are highly specialized channels of creative work, but you can express your creativity more common ways; how you organize your work, how you dress and speak. You can be creative in how you walk, how you drive, and how you eat. Creativity flows out of you every day, whether you like it or not.

Creativity is NOT the same as originality. Originality is HIGHLY overrated. Stop worrying about being the first, or the most, or even the best. Creativity is a way of seeing the world. It is about seeing better possibilities and taking action to make those possibilities realities.

Creativity is a skill that you can cultivate and develop. You were born creative. It’s just who you are by virtue of your membership is the species. Recognize and take pleasure in your creativity. Begin cultivating it so that you can create the life you want, the life that is good, and true, and beautiful.

Think about it. You’re pretty creative. I bet you can figure out how.

Be Free!

This article was written by David Denis owner of http://www.rocksolidwriting.com

David is a freelance writer for hire offering article writing, sales letters, training manuals, speech writing, seo content, sales writing, blog articles, copy-writing service, sales scripts and business name ideas.

To learn more, or request a quote visit http://www.rocksolidwriting.com/freelance-writer-quote

Top 10 Tips – Body Language
by On August 18, 2009

bodylanguageWhen you are communicating in person, either one-on-one or in front of a group, the majority of your message will be delivered not by the words you speak, but by your body language.  Here are the Top 10 Tips for communication with better body language.

1.  Eye Contact
Eye contact is one of the most important aspects of dealing with others, especially people we’ve just met. Maintaining good eye contact shows respect and interest in what they have to say. Here in the UK we tend to keep eye contact around 60-70% of the time. (However, there are wide cultural differences, so be careful in other countries) By doing this you won’t make the other people feel self conscious, like they’ve got a bit of vegetable stuck between their teeth or a dew drop hanging from the nose.  Instead, it will give them a feeling of comfort and genuine warmth in your company, any more eye contact than this and you can be too intense, any less and you give off a signal that you are lacking interest in them or their conversation.

2.  Posture
Posture is the next thing to master, get your posture right and you’ll automatically start feeling better, as it makes you feel good almost instantly. Next time you notice you’re feeling a bit down, take a look at how your standing or sitting. Chances are you’ll be slouched over with your shoulders drooping down and inward. This collapses the chest and inhibits good breathing, which in turn can help make you feel nervous or uncomfortable.

3.  Head Position
Head position is a great one to play around with, with yourself and others. When you want to feel confident and self assured keep your head level both horizontally and vertically. You can also use this straight head position when you want to be authoritative and what you’re saying to be taken seriously. Conversely, when you want to be friendly and in the listening, receptive mode, tilt your head just a little to one side or other. You can shift the tilt from left to right at different points in the conversation.

4.  Arms
Arms give away the clues as to how open and receptive we are to everyone we meet and interact with, so keep your arms out to the side of your body or behind your back. This shows you are not scared to take on whatever comes your way and you meet things “full frontal”. In general terms the more outgoing you are as a person, the more you tend to use your arms with big movements. The quieter you are the less you move your arms away from your body. So, try to strike a natural balance and keep your arm movements midway. When you want to come across in the best possible light, crossing the arms is a no, no in front of others. Obviously if someone says something that gets your goat, then by all means show your disapproval by crossing them !

5.  Legs
Legs are the furthest point away from the brain, consequently they’re the hardest bits of our bodies to consciously control. They tend move around a lot more than normal when we are nervous, stressed or being deceptive. So best to keep them as still as possible in most situations, especially at interviews or work meetings. Be careful too in the way you cross your legs. Do you cross at the knees, ankles or bring your leg up to rest on the knee of the other? This is more a question of comfort than anything else. Just be aware that the last position mentioned is known as the “Figure Four” and is generally perceived as the most defensive leg cross, especially if it happens as someone tells a you something that might be of a slightly dubious nature, or moments after. (As always, look for a sequence)

6.  Body Angle
Angle of the body in relation to others gives an indication of our attitudes and feelings towards them. We angle toward people we find attractive, friendly and interesting and angle ourselves away from those we don’t, it’s that simple! Angles includes leaning in or away from people, as we often just tilt from the pelvis and lean sideways to someone to share a bit of conversation. For example, we are not in complete control of our angle at the cinema because of the seating nor at a concert when we stand shoulder to shoulder and are packed in like sardines. In these situations we tend to lean over towards the other person.

7.  Hand Gestures
Hand gestures are so numerous it’s hard to give a brief guide but here goes. Palms slightly up and outward is seen as open and friendly. Palm down gestures are generally seen as dominant, emphasizing and possibly aggressive, especially when there is no movement or bending between the wrist and the forearm. This palm up, palm down is very important when it comes to handshaking and where appropriate we suggest you always offer a handshake upright and vertical, which should convey equality.

8.  Distance
Distance from others is crucial if you want to give off the right signals. Stand too close and you’ll be marked as “Pushy” or “In your face”. Stand or sit too far away and you’ll be “Keeping your distance” or “Stand offish”. Neither are what we want, so observe if in a group situation how close are all the other people to each other. Also notice if you move closer to someone and they back away, you’re probably just a tiny bit too much in their personal space, their comfort zone. “You’ve overstepped the mark” and should pull back a little.

9. Ears
Ears, yes your ears play a vital role in communication with others, even though general terms most people can’t move them much, if at all. However, you’ve got two ears and only one mouth, so try to use them in that order. If you listen twice as much as you talk you come across as a good communicator who knows how to strike up a balanced a conversation without being me, me, me or the wallflower.

10.  Mouth Movements
Mouth movements can give away all sorts of clues. We purse our lips and sometimes twist them to the side when we’re thinking. Another occasion we might use this movement is to hold back an angry comment we don’t wish to reveal. Nevertheless, it will probably be spotted by other people and although they may not know the comment, they will get a feeling you were not to pleased. There are also different types of smiles and each gives off a corresponding feeling to its recipient which we’ll cover next time.

More info at www.bodylanguagetraining.com or www.robertphipps.com

Author’s Bio:

Robert Phipps Management Consultant & Body Language Specialist with more than 15yrs experience.

Robert is in constant demand in the media and business world as a international platform speaker and trainer. He is currently in the process of writing his own book and has already written and commented for many national publications and journals.

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2 Steps to Lift Your Emotions – Instantly!
by On August 17, 2009

Roger SeipThere’s a timeless principle that successful people live by, that I realized can be used as an immediate and powerful boost to your self-esteem and your emotions. Volumes have been written and spoken about this principle over the millennia, but I still see people not understanding or misunderstanding it all the time, and the result is a major amount of unnecessary stress.

The principle I’m referring to is what we call Be, Do, Have. I definitely did not invent this terminology, but it IS descriptive. It basically says that the person you are (Be) influences your actions (Do), and those actions inexorable create your results (Have). Think about it. If you’ve even BEEN really serious about improving your health, what you DID was exercise and eat better, and what you HAD over time was a 10 pound weight loss or some other positive result. It’s an amazing concept when you start learning about it, because you see it in every area of life without exception.

Here’s where Be, Do, Have can be used to help out in about 1 second. Any emotion is something that you HAVE, right? So when you’re experiencing emotions that you don’t like such as stress, frustration, sadness, or just feeling blue, understand that your BE and your DO become a two-step process for immediate positive change.

 #1 – The BE Step – Make a Conscious Choice

The question of Who You Are is a little beyond the scope of this article and that’s OK. If you’re like me, the question itself can be a bit mind boggling, but I do know one thing about it. If you want to connect with the person you really want to BE, it will always involve making a conscious choice.

Identifying that you are in a place you don’t want to be and then choosing to do something about it is a uniquely human ability, and that choice instantly puts you more in touch with “the real you.” That’s always a good place to start. You’ve likely seen this phenomenon in your own life. If you’ve ever found yourself deep in debt, or physically or professionally down, you probably felt empowered the moment you really decided and committed to making a change. So the first step is to connect with your core by consciously choosing a different path.

#2- The DO Step – Take Some Action!

Once a choice has been made, you’ll want to take one more step, ACTION! The DO part of Be, Do, Have is the one that directly creates results, so make it work for you. A friend of mine recently reminded me that “action cures fear,” so what are the best actions to take for an immediate lift? I’ll suggest three:

  1. Smile 
    It is been discovered that the physical act of smiling will instantly and measurably put you in a better mood, even if the smile is insincere. So even if it feels goofy, just put on a smile!
  2. Say Something Positive
    Brian Tracy taught me that the simple act of saying to yourself “I like myself” with any degree of enthusiasm also has a measurable and immediate impact on your emotional state. Try it and see! (bonus tip – saying something positive about yourself is one thing, saying something positive to someone else can be even more powerful if it’s genuine.)
  3. Any Form of Exercise
    The first thing most doctors will prescribe for depression is physical exercise. For an instantaneous boost, even walking a lap around the office or a few deep knee bends can work wonders.

Sound simple? Yes, I know, almost too simple. My advice is to try this two-step process once and be honest about what happens. Truthfully, it works great for a few moments. The real power lies where you get in the habit of choosing and using Be, Do, Have consistently. When that happens, you become more joyful, more powerful, and more attractive in every sense. Covey says that “you make your habits and then your habits make you.” Your success habits start one moment at a time, so get going!

Be Free!

Roger Seip
Instructor